Wednesday, August 15, 2007

Single self on a shelf, again?

I'm constantly reminded about why being "single" is so great. Mostly from my guy friends, but lately, more from my girlfriends.

Over bourbon and martini's, I was asked if I had been admonished for looking or appreciating other women. She asked if I felt I "couldn't be my true self" around a significant other. Did I have to watch the News, CSI:Miami and Law and Order over Reality TV and bad dating shows? (Ok, I do have decent taste in my television watching, seriously) Does my extroverted personality take a back seat to being part of a couple? Does one still go out with the girlfriends and have guy's nights? Do couples get zapped into a routine? Funny enough, I listened and asked my self variations of those questions. Do I lose myself to (or in) a relationship? Have I been growing as person? What happens to perspective and personality when you find yourself in a happy relationship? Yes, these are things to ponder, but when you're not thinking about them and just enjoying the hell out of things, does it really matter? I like being single, I enjoy my independence and dating independent women.

I enjoy being in a relationship with one even more. Bottom line, if you change who you are for someone, that someone isn't right for you.